Maybe you just got dumped, haven’t had sex in longer than you’d like
to admit or are just really horny. Whatever the reason, a one-night
stand could be the cure. However, if you’re new to sex with strangers,
you might be a little leery. Before you hit the clubs on the prowl,
check out these pros and cons to make sure the experience is really what
you want.{relatedarticles}
Let’s start with the pros of a one-night stand. The benefits of a tryst with a sexy stranger can include:
- Mind-blowing Sex – One-night stands are often the result of
body shots and beer buckets, which can lower shyness and increase
experimentation. You’re never going to see him again, so go ahead
and try that pretzel-twist or fake British accent if that’s what
gets you going.
- Ego Boost – Feeling like you’ve lost your mojo? Making eyes
from across the room and closing the deal with ease can make you
feel like the world’s sexiest woman.{relatedarticles}
- Feeling Liberated – Been shackled to the missionary position
and polite kissing with boring dudes? Use this as a way to break
out of the mold of the “good girl” and enjoy sex like a man.
- “No really, baby, I did it for you.” – A recent study published
in the Journal of Human Sexuality showed that friends with
benefits, one-night stands and booty calls can actually help people
make better decisions when they finally decide to enter long-term
relationships.
On the other hand, exploring the sexual playground could leave you
getting sand kicked in your face. The cons could come along with a
quickie.
- Sexually Transmitted Diseases – You don’t know this person very
well and therefore are in the dark about his or her sexual health
and history. You may also be inebriated, which can cause you to do
things, like have sex without protection, that you normally would
not.{relatedarticles}
- You Could Become Depressed – Making one-night stands a regular
thing could mean you're seeking something you can’t get from
regular relationships. Beware of these interactions if you start
feeling used or guilty.
- Becoming Attached – Sorry, ladies, but some of us have a hard time
separating sex and emotions. If the thought of a guy sneaking out in the
night or not taking you to brunch after you’ve spent the night doing
the nasty makes you upset, you should skip the one-night stand.
Got the good and bad and you’re still ready to go? When trolling for a
one-time night of passion, you can put these tactics to the test to get
what you are looking for.{relatedarticles}
- Put yourself in the right situation – Places like weddings,
holiday parties, dance clubs and hotels are breeding grounds for
one-night stands. People are in high spirits, drinking and ready to
have a good time.
- Look Like You’re Having Fun – No one is going to hit on you if
you look like your dog just died. Get out on the dance floor, tell
jokes, do a shot –show guys that up for anything and looking to
have fun.
- Protect Yourself – Keep an eye on your drink, and if you leave
with a guy, let your friends know where you are going and when you
expect to be back. Pop a few condoms in your clutch – nothing makes
a temporary experience more permanent than a baby or
disease.{relatedarticles}
- Play it Cool – Even if you are new to one-night stands, don’t
tell your potential hookup, and don’t expect a relationship. By
keeping your expectations in check you can prevent possible
disappointment.
- Be Mysterious – The point of this exercise is to be anonymous
and fleeting. Don’t even use your real name if you can help it, and
refrain from contacting him on social media post-coitus.
- Don’t Feel Guilty – Society has programmed women to feel bad
about exploring and embracing their sexuality. You won’t feel sexy
or be able to enjoy the experience if you’re worried about looking
like a “slut” the whole time.
- Stick with a Stranger – Hooking up with a friend, coworker or a
relative of a friend can cause awkwardness in the light of day.
Keeping it strictly-stranger can help you avoid problems and
embarrassing run-ins.{relatedarticles}
In the end, you should do what you feel comfortable with and not feel
pressured. If you find yourself in a situation that scares you or makes
you feel uncomfortable, get out of there. Just because you started
something with a guy doesn’t mean you have to finish it. On the other
hand, it can be a great exercise in pushing your personal boundaries and
creating new life experiences to do something out of the ordinary and
challenge yourself.
By thinking through the options beforehand you can ensure that you
are making the right decision – even if you feel bad about it later,
don’t beat yourself up for too long. After all, you will never see that
person again and you don’t even need to tell your friends about the
one-night stand if you don’t want to. Keeping it to yourself can be a
great little secret that adds to your mystery and relationship wisdom. |
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